Paternity - Are you Ready for It?

Beginning at the time of conception, the new addition to the lives of two lovers,

changes a lot about the way they will ever do life again. They are dealing with paternity

without even realizing it. It is still a fog, but it is here, but are they ready for it?



Paternity is the one role that can empower, or hurt lives. When you get in, it's a role

that cannot be reversed so it is imperative that this role, this very weighty position,

that will change your life and the lives of those you will create,

be given serious thought and you are ready for it.


Paternity is about the life lived with one's offspring, the way

the parents cared for the child or, children, the relationships

that were developed and maintained. How those lives you created

were incorporated into your life as their care taker.


In this relationship where trust is established at a very young age

respect grows as the young person discovers his sense of belonging

with and to his parents.

He understands that his parents, although imperfect, they have his best interests at

heart. He is adamant his parents are the best persons who ever walk the

face of the earth, no one can compare and his parents can

and never will disappoint him as they treat him as they would like to be

treated. Whenever there are disappointments, those are handled with

genuine apologies and the child and parents return to a common

understanding.


As the child grows he is stable and happy. He blossoms, because

the environment in which he lives and grows is conducive to his success

as a person and it's all because of his parents...all because they are fully

involved in and happy in their role.


The relationship is so close it almost mirrors that of a friend,

but still, it can't be the same as they would a friend, as there will

be things you can tell your friends that you dare not allow to fall on the

ears of those little ones. Your talks together are both long and short,

deep and lighthearted, may sometimes lead them to many giggles

and at other times, warrant their tears.


Paternity determines the quality of man a boy will grow up

into, the type of woman a girl will become;

in turn, the type of person he/she will want their children to be.


All those times spent playing, working together and teaching your

children life skills and values that they should learn from no one else,

but their parents.

All the time your children spent looking closely at the couple who was a

key player in their lives. They know you for who you are.


All this time you were being modeled and as your children grew many

testimonials ring out about the splendid and not so splendid job you did.


If only all situations about paternity turned out this way

there would not be one unhappy child or parent around, but we know

all life stories do not compare to this view.


I did not limited this article to focus on just one parent,

because, paternity is really about two people and all that is done

in their relationship with their children to send them out

into a world as adjustable people.


Actions taken throughout this course of a lifetime are irreversible.

The results, even if they may appear good, it is clear, paternity is no easy responsibility

that is why it is so important that the parents be grounded and be the leaders of their clan.


When I think of paternity, it is so tightly intertwined with the best

legacy of unconditional love. It is the best gift one can ever receive,

and the best gift one can and will ever offer. Are You Ready For It?