If You Don’t, Who Will?

This article by KD explains how young people today receives their sex education.
I thought my mom knew it all, because she was mom and she shared as much as she
knew with her daughters and and always claimed that her mother never shared anything
dealing with sex education with her.

According to my mom, she learned all that she did from books. Me, on the other hand, all that I learned was from various sources including my mom. I think mom only knew so much. Maybe, our parents aren't the ones to teach us. Maybe we should just be left to accept whatever outside sources share with us.


by KD

A recent news article stated one in 6 teen moms didn’t think they could become pregnant. http://news.yahoo.com/1-6-teen-moms-didnt-believe-could-pregnant-202403188.html.

Can you think back to when you were a teenager? I think I would have been grouped into the “clueless club”. Do you also remember where you got your information about relationships, sex and STDs? I mostly remember it coming from school and my peers. If my parents mentioned it, I probably told them to stop or my embarrassment tuned them out!

I don’t think that tweens and teens today are much different than 20 years ago. If you have children in this age range, you have probably witnessed their embarrassment when you talk to them about these sensitive subjects. So who do they listen to if they aren’t comfortable hearing it from us? Peers, teachers, social media sites, TV or radio? I’m willing to say “ALL THE ABOVE”.

A day in the life of a tween or teen is spent mostly in a controlled classroom and then when the bell rings, the ITouches, MP3 players, and cell phones turn on! They sing in the car, text their friends, watch music videos on YouTube and follow their favorite artists on Facebook.

If you keep up with American Top 40, you know that Rihanna, Katy Perry, Bruno Mars, LMFAO, and Flo Rida are the most popular this week. Do you feel these artists have a responsibility to think about the younger generation “learning” from their lyrics? There has been much Twitter talk about Jay-Z censoring his lyrics now that he has had a baby. The audience is split – some support the rumors that he will alter his lyrics and others don’t want his music to get “soft”. Recently, HBO actor and upcoming rapper, Tray Chaney released a song entitled “Fatherhood”. In the lyrics he says, “I’d rather die than be that guy”. He wants more young adults to understand the meaning of fatherhood and seriousness surrounding their paternity responsibilities. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EJfaDhrM4k4

Basically, the opening statistic should motivate us to keep conversations open, often and real with our youth. The library has many books on the human body, human sexuality and pregnancy and childbirth. The American Academy of Pediatrics is also a good place to start. Good luck to us all! Knowledge is power. http://www.healthychildren.org/english/ages-stages/teen/dating-sex/Pages/default.aspx

Paternity - It Should Not Be A Disgrace

Paternity should not be a disgrace.

Sometimes from the things I see
around me I have to ask myself the question:
Why should some parents treat their
children as they sometimes do?

These are little people. They matter and need to be
respected like everyone else.

I awoke this morning and shortly after my morning
deliberations my eyes saw some graphic
footage of a newly born, a full term baby, still attached
to the umbilical cord and not far away from the corpse, was the
placenta. Talk about abandonment...talk about hate...

It appeared that it had been
delivered and just left... a very unsightly image.
It still looked like its
skin was intact, its hair, lush and black, all its
members all appeared well developed. Sadly that infant's
life was cut short and it deserved better.

I thought for a moment and felt utter disgust.
All the people who saw the photo ranted and were upset by it.
What display for the sanctity of human life.

My thoughts took a quantum leap all the
way forward to the years ahead
and how that child as it grew could have
been treated disgracefully instead of receiving
compassion and understanding from its parents.
What a disgrace! If an innocent child can be treated
as such, imagine what could result under different
circumstances.

Are there any clauses in paternity laws to protect children
and does it include the unborn?
what definition do we have for the unborn?

I thought longer and as my thoughts deepened it occurred
to me that some children are sometimes treated as if they
had aggressively petitioned their way into this life and so
for coming - and being unwanted that's how they are rewarded.

Honestly, paternity, does not have to be a disgrace, but
parental treatment that is cold and heartless and hurts a
child as mentioned in this post, or in any other crude way
makes you A Disgrace
and you give loving parents a bad name.

Paternity - Are you Ready for It?

Beginning at the time of conception, the new addition to the lives of two lovers,

changes a lot about the way they will ever do life again. They are dealing with paternity

without even realizing it. It is still a fog, but it is here, but are they ready for it?



Paternity is the one role that can empower, or hurt lives. When you get in, it's a role

that cannot be reversed so it is imperative that this role, this very weighty position,

that will change your life and the lives of those you will create,

be given serious thought and you are ready for it.


Paternity is about the life lived with one's offspring, the way

the parents cared for the child or, children, the relationships

that were developed and maintained. How those lives you created

were incorporated into your life as their care taker.


In this relationship where trust is established at a very young age

respect grows as the young person discovers his sense of belonging

with and to his parents.

He understands that his parents, although imperfect, they have his best interests at

heart. He is adamant his parents are the best persons who ever walk the

face of the earth, no one can compare and his parents can

and never will disappoint him as they treat him as they would like to be

treated. Whenever there are disappointments, those are handled with

genuine apologies and the child and parents return to a common

understanding.


As the child grows he is stable and happy. He blossoms, because

the environment in which he lives and grows is conducive to his success

as a person and it's all because of his parents...all because they are fully

involved in and happy in their role.


The relationship is so close it almost mirrors that of a friend,

but still, it can't be the same as they would a friend, as there will

be things you can tell your friends that you dare not allow to fall on the

ears of those little ones. Your talks together are both long and short,

deep and lighthearted, may sometimes lead them to many giggles

and at other times, warrant their tears.


Paternity determines the quality of man a boy will grow up

into, the type of woman a girl will become;

in turn, the type of person he/she will want their children to be.


All those times spent playing, working together and teaching your

children life skills and values that they should learn from no one else,

but their parents.

All the time your children spent looking closely at the couple who was a

key player in their lives. They know you for who you are.


All this time you were being modeled and as your children grew many

testimonials ring out about the splendid and not so splendid job you did.


If only all situations about paternity turned out this way

there would not be one unhappy child or parent around, but we know

all life stories do not compare to this view.


I did not limited this article to focus on just one parent,

because, paternity is really about two people and all that is done

in their relationship with their children to send them out

into a world as adjustable people.


Actions taken throughout this course of a lifetime are irreversible.

The results, even if they may appear good, it is clear, paternity is no easy responsibility

that is why it is so important that the parents be grounded and be the leaders of their clan.


When I think of paternity, it is so tightly intertwined with the best

legacy of unconditional love. It is the best gift one can ever receive,

and the best gift one can and will ever offer. Are You Ready For It?

Paternity Testing: Why So Trendy

Paternity testing seems to be a very hot item on the market, but

when did Paternity testing become so trendy, and why?

Paternity testing according to wiki.answers.com is genetic testing to determine

what percentage likelihood a man is the biological father of a given child.

(http://wiki.answers.com/Q/Who_invented_paternity_testing#ixzz1j0teAC00)

Another source Wikipedia, defines Parental testing as DNA profiling to

determine if two persons have a biological parent-child relationship and the

Paternity (DNA) test establishes that proof.

Paternity on the other hand is defined by The Free Dictionary as:

1. the state of being a father; fatherhood.

2. Descent on a father's side; paternal descent.

Paternity is a very important relationship that many children are deprived of.

To correct that pattern, a wide selection of testing is available to choose from,

priced as low as under one hundred bucks, (if not done at accredited facilities),

yet some children still grow up, past their third birthday, not knowing their father.

When Was DNA Paternity Testing Developed?

Wiki answers.com answers this question: In 1985 British Geneticist, Sir Alec John Jeffreys, developed techniques for DNA fingerprinting and DNA genome sequencing which in turn led to tests for testing [b]Paternity[/b].

(http://wiki.answers.com/Q/Who_invented_paternity_testing#ixzz1j0c1pQcP)

One paternity resource states and I quote: "Paternity testing has come a long way in the past decade,"

because while we only hear about Genetic testing only identifying a man as the father of a child it can

also exclude a man as the father of a child.

(http://www.yakimacounty.us/pa/Parents/Paternity.pdf)

Some Reasons For Having A Paternity Test

Infidelity in relationships have been occurring for many centuries, as has fidelity.

However; when trust erodes and a child is conceived, it is likely that a partner requests

a Paternity test to avoid the possibility of Paternity fraud.

Where there have been infidelity, and a Paternity test was not done, many men have,

in the past, unknowingly fathered children they did not conceive, only to discover many years later.

In related instances, women have been abandoned by their men once they learned she was

pregnant and those have claimed that the child that she was carrying belonged to someone else.

(Do Continue With The Article After Viewing The Link Below.)

Here's what sounds like someone's personal experience.

Paternity testing has become trendy, because it serves a very useful purpose

not only for the male spouse with the cheating partner, but it also

serves to provide proof and confidence for an abandoned partner seeking

the re-involvement of an uninterested parent in his child.

The American Pregnancy Association agrees that some women with multiple partners will

naturally seek paternity testing to:

• know for sure who the child's father is,

• find peace of mind, as well as to

• secure financial and emotional support from that person.

Other reasons also involve

• discovering about the health history of the child and

• raising any abnormalities in the child's medical history that would have otherwise

been missed.(http://citomation.org)

Why is Paternity testing so trendy? This question can be answered in many

ways not limited to answers one can accumulate from viewing the

Maury Povich and Jerry Springer shows. And while these shows

may make you believe that identifying a child's father is the only

reason a Paternity test is sought and Paternity test is only for those

kind of people with multiple partners, that is so not true.

In conclusion Paternity testing is for every couple expecting a child,

whether trust is eroded in their relationship, or their trust is intact.

According to my research, the well being of a child is also

provided by looking into his medical history, and that to me, is the

ultimate purpose why Paternity testing is trendy. In addition,

it has to be that after the discovery of such information that

Paternity Testing became even more trendy.